If You're Feeling Down

by Roxyon July 19, 2014July 27, 2014

I've been single for over two years now and it has been quite the journey. I have literally felt everything from 'I'm single and I don't give a f*ck' to 'I'm getting old I need to get married and have a family ASAP!' It has been quite the learning experience in so many different ways. I've learned what I want in my other half, what I don't want, and most importantly, I've learned about myself. It's completely cliche, but I don't think it's possible to find what you need until you really know yourself. I'm not gonna lie, there have been times that I wondered if I would even know what to do in a relationship anymore, but I know that when the time is right and we're both ready, things will fall into place.

The question I hate answering the most is "Why are you single?" It's almost always meant in a good way, as if to say any guy would be an idiot to pass you up, which is flattering but also frustrating. I am the strong independent woman because I have to be. It's not a burden or an unfortunate circumstance, in fact I take great pride in the fact that I can do it all by myself. The reality is I am by myself and I just have to keep living. I have never wanted to be the girl who's identity is defined by her significant other.Or the girl who's never been single because she went from relationship to relationship. And especially not the girl who feels like something's missing because she's single.

I'm completely guilty of the latter. There was a point in my life where I thought I had everything going for me, except that. It's so tricky because I know in my heart that there is someone out there for me and I know I'm meant to have a family but the who, what, where, and when are all unknowns at this moment. Who knows, maybe things will happen sooner than I think. But it's just not right now and it's okay. I'll leave you with a text a very close friend of mine sent me almost exactly a year ago. To all the single women out there, this ones for you.

Posted in Personal Development Post Date 04/14/2019






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